What if?

Every day as I walk past her house, the 14 year old is seated on the now broken fences and looking a far off may be in thoughts. She is heavily pregnant and staying at her mother's house. I say Good morning to her , she answers and then continues staring into space. And i wondered may be she comes out to sit at the fence every morning to look at her fellow age mates walk off to school and think If things hadn't been different , she would be walking off to school with them. But for her, what is there to look forward to everyday? Nothing much but crushed dreams for now.

This particular girl is of interest to me, because i have watched her grow from a child to a 14 year old , I have watched her go from a happy girl to a sad little girl and I have watched her grow so fast to a woman, the day her mother decided that it was best to marry her off to an older man because she couldn't pay school fees for her. Of course the marriage didn't last for that long, she had to come back home and the man decided to get him self a new wife. When i ask the mother about it " she says, I am waiting for her to give birth, I will keep the baby and she will go back to school. After she graduates from Lower secondary school, her husband has promised to take her back and give her a job." Then she adds, I wanted her to go to school but her brothers couldn't pay school fees and life is not easy, so i think i made the decision". What do i say to this?, Mmmh.

Why men are happy ?

Why men are such happy people?

Because your last name never changes

A car mechanic will always tell you the truth about your car

Wrinkles add character, they are not horror marks

You are in one mood all the time

Phone conversations are over in 30 seconds

Because a 10 day vacation requires only one suitcase

Because if someone fails to invite you to their party he or she can still be your friend

Because 3 pairs of shoes is all you will need for a lifetime

You have the same hairdo for 30 years

You only have to shave your face once in a while

You can wear shorts no matter how your legs look

You can do your nails with a pocket knife

You order your football ticket 6 months in advance but do Christmas shopping on Dec 24th in 25 minutes 

To be born a Woman In Africa

To be Born a Woman In Africa,
means that,
Your parents are either happy or sad that you were born a girl,
You  always take care of your self last,
Your always thought of last when it comes to who gets what in your home,
The decisions that you make are examined and if they do not fit into the plans others have for you, then they automatically have to change.
Your life is socially and culturally planned for you and your expected to follow the same path as your mother or your sister or your aunt.
Your expected to get married, have children and put your dreams on hold for everyone else,
Your expected to get a job and perfectly balance your work and married life and if you can't then your expected to quit your job.
Men do not make mistakes and are always right so you do not question any of their decisions.
Your not supposed to remarry when your husband passes away because you will always belong to your deceased husband's clan and so they will always make decisions for you
Your expected to give birth to a boy and if you can't then your husband is justified to go and sleep with other women and your are taught to let him do that because he is a man